A few days ago my friend and collaborator in Here Be Dragons theatre Caitlin Corbett published her personal code of conduct from when she was 19 on her Facebook wall.
I took a good read of it and realized that although I too had my own code I had never written it down. It had always been an internal moral compass, one that may not line up with many other people. How could I expect people to understand me and my motives unless they were there, easy to read.
So I decide to write down my code of conduct as it stands here and now. It has ( and hopefully will continue) to evolve as I do.
- the following rules and code of conduct apply only to me. I do not hold my self to any other standards but my own and therefore must do the same with the rest of the world.
- do your best: it doesn’t matter if you enjoy what you are doing or not. If you are given a task compleat it to the best of your abilities. Take pride in your work even if you dislike it.
- push yourself: you will never get better at anything through being complacent. Once you are comfortable find a way to shake it up.
- failure IS an option: this comes with pushing your self. You learn more from a single failure then you do from a hundred successes.
- the failure doesn’t have to be yours: indeed the majority of failures shouldn’t be yours. Learn from peers, mentors and from observation.
- Chivalry is not dead: be courteous to all. Hold the door open for all, not because people are weak but because it is the right thing to do.
- when being a host be the most gracious host possible. Offer drinks, the best chair, turn off your phone, offer protection and aide if needed but you are under no obligation to take an insult of they offer it. Throw them out
- when a guest in someone’s home accept their hospitality with grace, be helpful, do not insult them and be curtious
- everybody lies.
- minimize lies told, but do not fear to lie when needed. The important thing is to ensure your lies don’t get found out
- omission is acceptable.
- while it is acceptable to lie when needed that rule is invalid when you have given your word. Your word is your bond. When you give your word the deed is as good as done. No exceptions. You are beholden to your word unless the person you have your word to releases you. The only difference between giving your word and accomplishing the task is the time on the clock.
- no one is truly good or truly bad. We are all a shade of grey.
- you are to protect your family at all costs. They are your blood. (This rule becomes invalid if they do not extend the same rule to you)
- those who get the label of “true friend” are to be considered family and afforded all the rights and privileges therein.
- If it harm none do what you will
- the biggest exception to the above rule is if someone tries to hurt you or your family, then all bets are off.
- defend those who can’t defend themselves.
- help others whenever possible. When not possible try anyways
- believe in a higher power because if you are the height of evolution then the universe is in deep shit.
- what you believe is what you believe do not impose you belief on anyone.
- be prepared. Not just for scouts anymore.
- if there is a conversation worth having it is worth turning off your phone. ( this goes for meals and dates)
- trust but verify
- forgive but never forget
- Own up to your mistakes
More to come. Changes to be made. Life to live.
Dropped from my brain to your.